Better late than never, Happy New Year Guys!!! I trust that you all had a wonderful Christmas and is ready for a New Year of opportunities, challenges, disappointments, success stories, and so much more that the New Year brings with it. It’s been a while since I’ve posted a blog although I have been continuing to write for quite some time now. There were many other topics I wanted to put out prior to the New Year’s arrival but nonetheless I’ve got ample time to do so this year.
I was listening to some music last night and I came across this song Fly by Nicki Minaj feat. Rihanna. I instantly fell in love with the chorus and couldn’t get it out of my mind. I am not one to make New Year resolutions simply because I know I’m not the type to say ‘this is what I’m going to do’…rather, I just do whatever it is I want to do without having to make it a resolution or an item on my list of to-do things. My goals have been set years in advance and as each New Year comes I just push further towards them or with some, complete them.
Of course, as stated earlier, each year brings different challenges so of course it may have threw some of my goals (plans) off a bit, but I never let it hinder me from continuing on in pursuing what it is that I want to do. In other words, as oppose to setting New Year resolutions, I am who I’ve always been; not much has changed in terms of the direction I’m heading or the things I want to achieve. I’ve grown much over the years and have improved tremendously in many areas but there is no big significant change in my plans.
Many people come into the New Year anticipating major changes in their lives and for some, are extremely disappointed at the end of the year to have not accomplished all that they said they would do at the beginning of the year. A New Year does not mean a new opportunity to re-invent yourself. You will forever be disappointed if that is what you foresee, as for each New Year you would continuously set out to do the same thing. A New Year will perhaps bring new opportunities for you to either work on yourself for the better in different aspects and areas of your life or continue on in doing what you’ve always been doing.
Nothing’s wrong with setting goals and seeing to it that you complete/ achieve them. However, if you only try to set goals because a new year is approaching, then realistically, you can expect to not succeed in them or expect to come across many difficulties in attaining them. It’s simple, if you do not make yourself obedient to a particular thing, then how is it that you expect for yourself to follow through in it? In other words, if you do not practice what you preach or say you’re going to do, then how can you expect the end result to be triumphant. Many people sit down writing their long list of things they want to do and change for the New Year e.g. lose a lot of weight, be more strict, stick to their word, travel more, etc. Here’s the thing, if for example, last year you just ate what you wanted, did not exercise, and did whatever you wanted, then exactly how do you expect your weight loss strategy to go? Do you think simply because you say that’s what you want for the New Year that it’s going to happen? And if so, are you aware of the radical changes you will have to put your body through in order to achieve this?
In life you can never just go from nothing to something. There has to be some sacrifice in order for you to go on to the next step or stage in life. You cannot just become a movie star. That’s years of hard work and for some that are blessed enough to get into it and succeed instantly, are the ones blessed with that talent. Even they have to go through some form of training to be what is required of them. In everything you do in life there has to be some discipline, training, obedience, or sanction; even for the trivial things like losing weight.
A New Year brings new opportunities but the obvious ones as last year would have been able to give you are not considered by me a new opportunity. Why do I say that? Well, what is it that hindered you from losing weight or travelling more last year? Is it because of health conditions, constant working, or the simple mere fact that you weren’t driven enough to do so? If drive was your downfall, then how are you now going to change that? And why wait for a New Year? Why not try to change things in December or earlier? What is so special/ different about this particular year as oppose to last year that made you come to this conclusion that you are going to change these things? Whatever it is that was hindering you last year from doing what it is you aspire to do, what makes you think it won’t hinder you this year? And if there was nothing in your way last year, then why now? Why not then? Hmmm.
I’ve been told that I take things far too literal so you might be wondering ‘oh my gosh what’s up with these questions, is it really that serious?’, but then again, I live in the real world. I’m just trying to bring you up-to-date with how I function and think in this real world because some of you are really living some fairy tale lives but with no happy endings. Some of you just dream and dream and never really pursue anything in life. Some of you make New Year resolutions simply to hear yourselves or to make yourself same as if you are doing something in life. Making plans just because it’s the normal thing to do with no way of ensuring that you are going to at least follow through is so pointless. I hate being rude but it’s absurd saying you’re going to do something and never get around to it simply because YOU are the one standing in your way, not the year. If you have no practice or discipline in something, then do not out of the blue assume that you can instantly change things. It’s not impossible to achieve your New Year resolutions but you must start now working towards them. You cannot wait for a New Year to arrive to then decide to be proactive. You’d be in for a rude awakening. Now that you’re already in the New Year, think about those things that you said you wanted to change and ask yourself, is this a realistic goal to try to tackle within a year or am I going to find some balance, some discipline in my life in order for me to achieve these? Also, will these goals change when another New Year approaches, because if they do then what’s the point in going after something that perhaps won’t be finished within a year simply to drop it for another New Year resolution.
If you do not have it, find some stability in your life from here on and go with that. Setting New Year resolutions are not necessary. If you know what it is you want in life and is sure about it, don’t let the year depict when and how you deal with what you aspire to obtain. The year changes, your goals shouldn’t and if you want more than what you had last year then you should’ve already thought about it prior to entering a New Year. You would already have plans thought out on how you would change it this year. Don’t wait for the New Year to think of new ideas, goals, or anything for that matter; start now and if you’re not finished by time the year is out, then don’t worry, push forth, stick to it; you don’t have to add on just to accommodate the New Year nor should you leave behind. Continue to do what it is you were doing.
From my early teen years I had made up in my mind that I am Dedicated, Desired, and Determined to Win and to this day that has not and will not change. That’s my life’s goal and not just a New Year resolution. That is something that I stick to and abide by. That is what makes me who I am. My dedication to whatever I set forth to do, my desire for it, and my determination to see that it’s accomplished. I’ve been purposed-driven as shall I always be. Some things along the way have changed but nonetheless I’m still focused and obedient to my plans and therefore I have no worries as to those that are yet to come. The year doesn’t make me, I make the year GREAT. Guaranteed promise if you start thinking that way and therefore being that way, you will realize how setting new goals for new year’s doesn’t move you. You will go into a new year with the plans you already have set forth to achieve not to make a better year but to make a better YOU. Happy New Year!!!!!! Don’t throw your resolutions away now, just look at them, think about them, and figure out what it is you really want to do, why you want to do it, and how will it in the end be beneficial to you, and go from there. Wishing you nothing but the best!!!!
Gods Speed,
Akrizia ‘MaryAntonique’ Smith
