Sunday, March 11, 2018

Spring Forward

Yesssssssss! Welcome to my favorite time of the year – DAYLIGHT SAVING TIME! I know many of you do NOT share this much enthusiasm with me lol but nonetheless, you guys should've learned by now to adjust. But yes, Dolls and Gents, I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE when time 'Springs Forward'. Of course, perhaps you might be thinking it's just an hour extra of daytime but to me it's so much more. Granted the fact that during the segment when time 'Falls Backward' and it's already dark by 6pm – which is crazy – I look forward to more Sun time (Merbabe) with night falling closer to 8pm and I just honestly feel like I get more done during this time because let's keep it real (for some of us), once we see darkness, we think work time is over – yes we have to do better but still lol you understand. 

 I've had writer's block for about a month now and I was trying desperately to keep up with my blogging but being uninspired and quite busy at the same time – ALL Praise be to God – things just weren't coming together. I honestly woke up this morning not even noticing the time had change as I stated earlier, I'm just so adjusted to expecting it too plus my body has thing where it ALWAYS wakes up at 6am sharp (but again it's been programmed into doing so from high school days). With all that being said, I said to myself, I need to blog but what am I going to write about? These past few weeks have been emotionally and spiritually challenging for me and I felt so overwhelmed that many things I had plan to accomplish during such time was put on the back burner as I couldn't function to properly execute them. Then I asked myself another question after 'what am I going to blog about', I said 'Krizia, you've got to push forward, you've got to get through this' and ah, there – Spring Forward. 

How Are You Planning to SPRING FORWARD? 

Are you currently in a funk as I am? Nothing intentional, life just at times throws us lemons and we're not really in the mood for making lemonade, or perhaps just don't have the energy to do so at the moment. Yea, I know – it threw me some lemons and I was just like 'sigh, leave them on the floor, I'm tired right now.' It happens, DO NOT beat yourself up about it! We ALL go through Seasons of being uninspired and feeling broken. Brokenness is a beautiful thing though if we understand its necessity at times. But the question is, how are you going to get from said state to the next? Do you know what's got you there in the first place – what's troubling your spirit? How are you planning to PUSH through it until you've reached that breakthrough that's on the other side? And trust me, there's a breakthrough there otherwise you wouldn't be going through the valley in the first place. 

I have a few daily routines I do to help me make it through the day, especially through the ones that are more difficult than others. I'll gladly share them with you in hopes that it brings you some comfort as well. 
  • First thing I do when I wake up EVERY Morning is say, 'Thank You Lord.' - it might sound like something simple but believe me, it's well deserved and it instantly brightens my day. 
  • Immediately following that, without getting out of bed or anything, I listen to Denzel Washington's 'Fall Forward' speech. There's a short put together version, all of 6 or so minutes on Youtube (will post the link below) that helps me so much throughout the day as it plays in my head constantly. I usually follow up with some TD Jakes or other Motivational Speaker. 
  • During some time in the middle of the day, I get up from my desk and stretch, just to work the kinks out – again, nothing major but it helps. 
  • I drink LOTS of water – haha please don't judge me with this one but we all know the healthy benefits plus it just makes me feel refreshed and clears my head a little. 
  • And lastly, before I go to bed, another Thank You to God doesn't hurt at all plus I finish off with The Golden Girls. A little comedy is always good for the soul. Find something that you laugh to over and over again and fall asleep to that. I sleep well, believe me. 

Now those are just a few simple daily things I do to set a positive attitude for the work day but that in itself is not my total solution for pushing through those rough patches in life. Truth is, I'm still pushing through so I can only advise you on how I'm getting through thus far and those do really help. I may not even be able to direct you on how to get through those rough patches but I will share with you my plans to Spring Forward and make it through my breakthrough with hopes that it can and will encourage you to hold on a little longer and push just a little harder. 

I'm Going Over – Here's How. 

I'll admit, I'm a little weak at times as we all are during vulnerable moments but in all honesty, I play victim too much. I've got to stop that. I create storms and get mad when it starts raining. If that's you as well, we HAVE to get it together boo. That's not cool at all and it causes others around us to handle us differently and when we're finally out of our 'moods' then we become depressed because no one wants to deal with the person always causing problems or looking for attention. Moving forward, I've got to be able to take what I give and if I know within myself I cannot handle something or someone responding to me in the same manner, then perhaps I should not do so in the first place. P.s. that's plan number one. 

Number two, I have to really and I mean really accept the fact that no matter how hard I try to force something, if it's not for me or my time, it's just not for me or not my time – yet. Just like Seasons, everything has its time and the same way I can't force Summer to last forever or Spring to come fast, I can't make my blessings fall in my lap because I believe I'm ready to receive it – that's mad disrespectful to God to be honest. Please, DO NOT watch others around you and envy them because it seems as everything is coming together so quickly for them and here you are constantly putting in the work and it feels like you're being overlooked. Continue to put in the work, in DUE Season what's for you WILL come to you. I've learnt this before and a bit ashamed to say I clearly have forgotten but at least I'm admitting it and acknowledging that going forth, I have to be a little more patient and understanding. EVERYTHING in it's right time. If we can remember that, the pressing and the testing won't be so painful because we would understand, it'll all be over soon and WORTH IT. 

Last but definitely not least, if I'm going to do anything, I have to do it with sincerity. Truthfully, what's the point of doing something if it means nothing to you? Are you really pushing because you want it or are you pushing for it because others have it? And if that's the case, if and when you do get it, what's the value of it to you – nothing, right? This one sort of ties into the second point but differs a bit as well. Are you working towards YOUR goals or others? Are you doing it to prove something to your family members, friends, 'enemies' or is it something you're sincerely passionate about? If you answer any of those questions truthfully to yourself then you will understand the brokenness – and this is where it differs. Every brokenness isn't the same. I'm being broken because I'm pushing for something I desire so much that I need to be purified before I can receive it. Are you being broken for purification as well or is the universe telling you 'hey, take this time to figure out what you really want; get it together in this process and then you can go to the next side.' Going forth now I understand my brokenness and therefore even though it hurts, I flourish in it. I'll keep pushing towards my goals whiles being purified and positioning myself to be ready to receive it with sincerity. 

Again, I can only tell you my plans on how I'm going over and what I've got to do to get there. I've got to stop crying wolf and expecting a rescue when things actually do fall apart. I've got to stop looking at others and being envious – if I'm honest with myself – because one, I do not know how hard they worked for it and two, when it's my time, things will fall into place. And finally, I've got to ensure that everything I'm doing is because I sincerely want to do it and understand that through adversities, we learn who we really are and what we really aspire to achieve/become. It doesn't rain forever – just have to hold on a little longer, and dance in the rain whiles waiting for the sun to shine again. And maybe, just maybe take life's lemons and make some lemonade – with a splash of Vodka haha (Gin for me). 

Chin Ups Loves and Spring Forward! 

Love Always, 



















Akrizia 'MaryAntonique' Smith